Advice to the Happy Couple
Any words of wisdom on wedding planning from someone who
recently took the plunge?
Congratulations … I'm very happy for you. Advice? You know,
advice is one of those things you get what you pay for.
However, I will pass along some very good advice that was given
to us. This old man stopped into Tina's restaurant one day
before we got married. He said, "The best advice I can give you
is to lower your expectations."
It really stunned Tina, as it seems too negative to tell someone
just before they get married.
But he is right if you think about it. We, who have been raised
on Disney "happily-ever-after" stories often seem to expect more
from marriage than is reasonable. I mean, our spouse may be
wonderful, but they are human and will have needs and wants that
conflict with ours. It is funny that we would not have any
expectations of other people, but we often enter a marriage
with roles we expect our spouse to fulfill.
Besides, if you don't expect anything from someone else, you
can't be disappointed. I suppose this is a Buddhist perspective, but
as much as we consciously think that we aren't like that, we
slip. I suppose we shouldn't have high expectations out of
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